This paper analyzes how Jewish-Christian couples in the Netherlands responded to the 'Maccabi riots' in November 2024, when a football match between Amsterdam's Ajax and Maccabi Tel Aviv led to violence. The incident sparked nationwide and global outcry, dominating public and political discourse for weeks. In the days that followed, two dominant narratives emerged: framing the riots as a 'pogrom' and viewing the unrest as a symptom of a broader 'integration crisis'—pointing to the MENA background of perpetrators. Both frames are emblematic of the emerging politics of fear and instrumentalisation of antisemitism against Muslims and Arabs. While assaults on Israelis were widely condemned, the violence committed by Maccabi hooligans received much less attention. The impact of this situation on the daily lives of mixed couples illustrates the interplay between political discourse and personal experiences amidst the geopolitical shadows of the Gaza genocide after the Hamas attacks on Israel in October 2023. I explore the heightened anxieties faced by Dutch Jews in relationships with non-Jews, in response to political and media discourses. Strategies of dialogue, self-isolation, and critique emerged as key ways to cope with the situation. Additionally, differences in reflections on the riots between partners shed light on everyday life in a heavily polarized society. I argue that it is crucial to acknowledge the shock and threat experienced by Jews during this time, while also necessitating a critical analysis of the politicisation of this anxiety, which, ultimately, does not help to combat antisemitism and risks justifying ongoing violence in Palestine. By adding an ethnographic perspective to the complex intersections of politics, media discourse, violence, and emotions, this paper contributes to a deeper understanding of the politics of fear in Europe today.