In Christian theologies of suffering, eschatologies, and theodicies explored by theologians and philosophers of religion, the academic is often criticized for the method they use when writing as an observer of 'other's' suffering. As Karen Kilby correctly argued in her article Eschatology, Suffering and the Limits of Theology, the theologian should speak about suffering only from a respectful third-person perspective. If we agree with Karen Kilby's conclusion, then one must cultivate an attitude that learns from and makes space for the 'other' properly. One way the academic can go beyond the criticized position of treating experiences as knowledge, as some sort of data to be systematized into a framework that accepts a perfectly good God, is through recognizing and allowing ourselves to be changed by the relations we have with the 'other' who suffers. The goal of this paper is to explore the 'other' that the academic encounters when theologizing or philosophizing about that person's suffering or the 'other's' insertion into a world that suffers, using literary tools applied to biblical narratives. First, the paper begins with the idea that the primary appropriate way for an academic, or any other human person, to access the 'other' is through relations. Drawing on the recently popular theological fields of the metaphysics of relations and trinitarian ontologies, I will show that these fields often assume that relations are either inherently neutral or positive. Second, in response to this assumed notion of relations, drawing on Eleonore Stump's exploration of relations in the narrative of Job, the paper will focus on relations that appear negative or harmful. Third, the paper will conclude with a development on a more comprehensive understanding of the relations drawn from biblical narratives that define both us and the 'other', which ultimately allows for a respectful theologizing on suffering in the third-person.