The anti-gender movement, its policies and the role national churches play in many post-socialist countries have been recently discussed by various researchers (Stoeckl&Uzlaner 2022, Butler 2024, Kościańska 2024). While existing research shows the political and social influence as well as the monopoly of national churches over the construction of gender and sexuality in public and their key role in anti-gender movement, less frequent is the research on how this position of churches influence the lives of its believers and especially those who belong to the vulnerable groups. This paper based on the interviews with religious and secular queer individuals in Lithuania will analyze how they interpret the position of the Roman Catholic church regarding gender and sexuality and its manifestation in post-socialist country where religious conservatism is mixed with the Soviet legacy of homophobia and criminalization of homosexuality. Additionally, their reflection of the Church's position on the individual's religious lives will be discussed.